Breaking Free: Redefining Success on Your Terms

Breaking Free: Redefining Success on Your Terms

You’re familiar with those moments when you find yourself wishing for someone else’s level of success, or seeing someone or something as greater than you— that’s what I call the self-limiting success mind trap.

It’s the tendency to compare your own achievements and progress to those of others, leading to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. But in reality, success is a deeply personal journey, and true fulfillment comes from embracing your own path and honoring your unique journey.

This is precisely why defining success on your own terms is crucial. By understanding the internal changes necessary to align with your unique vision and personal blueprint for success, you can generate the momentum you seek.

I can deeply empathize with the entrapment one can feel in grips of the self limiting success trap; I’ve experienced it firsthand. I found myself at rock bottom, consumed by external measures of success, while neglecting my inner world and authenticity. I lost everything slowly over time—my home, my job, my financial stability—and resorted to using drugs once again to escape the pain.

In those challenging moments that lacked self-love and full authenticity, I couldn’t help but compare my struggles to others’ seemingly perfect lives. Yet, I realized that this comparison only deepened my sense of inadequacy.

Because I hadn’t yet clarified my meaning of life or success, my definition remained unclear. But once I did, it centered on having a place to call home, finding balance, discovering my purpose, and experiencing the freedom to breathe deeply.

What I needed to understand from this definition I gave was that I couldn’t simply go out and purchase a home; starting from nothing meant I had to seek help and support, and honestly I needed to realize that home wasnt a roof over my head but an emotional state of being I needed to cultivate internally.

That was my initial step. It required time and dedication to heal my mind and heart just enough to glimpse a pathway forward.

Beacuse in truth, we dont always have it all together, we have glimpses to help move us forward. Healing and creating pathways to our visions doesn’t happen overnight; it’s about taking small steps each day.

As I began to see small possibilities, my energy would be shifted into a more authenitc part of me. Instead of comparing myself to others, I started to question what truly mattered to me in life. I envisioned myself with a home that i could feel from within, providing for my children, experiencing joy, emotional stability, and living authentically.

I realized early on that I didn’t want to live a life dictated by societal norms. The external world I was immersed in affected my sense of worth and motivation negatively. Striving for success within that framework left me feeling inadequate and often wondering what the meaning of life was.

I struggled with the awarenss that we live in a world that has both billionaires and poverty simultaneously and the mainstream keeps creating the narrative to manifest your best life in the image of this system.

This realization sparked my curiosity about how I genuinely wanted to shape my life and define success. Fame and material possessions weren’t, and still aren’t, my idea of success. I know that losing everything humbled me deeply and allowed me to see life through a very different lens. (I am writing a book about it so stay tuned for that!) I refuse to let external markers define my worth or constrain my authenticity. What I desired, and still desire, is the freedom to create my own path and support my true self without limitations. The approach I took involved getting real and clear with myself. I placed trust in my blueprint of success and began freeing myself from social norms and ideologies.

My focus shifted to what mattered most: my wellness and understanding of purpose. For me, purpose encompasses my inherent worth, desires, love, strength, and the miraculous essence of who I am. Success, to me, is internally defined through my inner power and spirit. Just as everyone’s perception of success is unique, so is mine. Tuning into the meaning of life for oneself is the key! Detaching from external influences to truly connect with inner power lays the foundation for success.

Here are 3 Foundational Internal Pathways to Connect With

1. The Healing Mind

This alignment marks a profound journey of self-discovery, wherein you embrace new ways of thinking and harness the power of your mind by aligning it with a more authentic part of yourself. Healing, fundamentally, is rooted in understanding, forgiveness, compassion, and forging meaningful connections to wisdom.

It’s about addressing the cracks in our thought patterns—distinguishing between the ways we currently think and how we aspire to think. It involves consciously choosing to fill these gaps with perspectives, beliefs, values, and authentic truths that resonate deeply within our spirit. Through this process, we mend the fractures within our consciousness, paving the way for greater alignment with our true selves and a more fulfilling existence.

For me, I know that my mind used to run wild, feeding me thoughts based on external influences. Without a co-pilot, my mind would fall into those cracks and absorb anything it was fed. Learning to filter through my own authenticity has shaped my story of who I am and who I want to be.

It’s a conscious choice to embark on the pathway of healing, allowing oneself to open the mind, regulate emotions, and uncover wisdom and hidden gems within the lessons. By choosing to empower our mind and guiding it through thoughts, beliefs, values, and more, we strengthen the foundation within.

This foundation is fortified by the Inner Guide, holding wisdom and conscious awareness. As we nurture this connection and trust in its guidance, we navigate our journey with clarity and purpose, embracing the transformative power of self-discovery and growth.

2. The Connected Self

Think of the connected self as the wholeness of who you are—mind, body, and spirit. It’s about integrating all aspects of your being into a harmonious and balanced whole. When you connect with your true self on this deeper level, you tap into a wellspring of wisdom and inner guidance that leads you towards greater fulfillment and alignment with your purpose.

This journey of self-discovery and empowerment involves understanding our inherent worth through our inner guide and accessing higher consciousness pathways. It’s about transcending externally imposed definitions and delving into the deeper truths that reside within us. By tuning into our inner wisdom, we unlock the power to surpass limitations and live authentically, guided by the wisdom of our higher selves.

In this journey, we reclaim our sovereignty and align with the divine essence of who we truly are. Our intuition serves as a channel through which we receive the connections needed to co-create the life we want to love, not just live. The inner guide illuminates the path to our purposeful existence, guiding us towards a life filled with meaning, joy, and fulfillment.

For me, it wasn’t until I discovered the deeper connections to myself that I was able to align with my authentic success. As I opened up to my connected self, I encountered the vastness of the Universe, connected with spirit guides, and explored the expansive possibilities beyond the physical. In this expanded awareness, I glimpsed a bigger picture—one that transcended the limitations of my previous understanding.

3. Authentic Living

Embracing authenticity in every aspect of life is key to unlocking your path to personal success. When you allow your true self to guide your actions, decisions, and interactions with others, you tap into a wellspring of wisdom that resides deep within you.

Your authenticity holds profound insights into the life you desire. It understands your passions, values, and aspirations at their core. It recognizes the unique path that aligns with your soul’s purpose and fulfillment.

By listening to your authenticity, you gain clarity on what truly brings you joy, meaning, and fulfillment in life. It becomes your compass, guiding you towards choices and actions that resonate with your true self. As you honor your authenticity and the significance you assign to life, you pave the way towards creating the life you truly desire.

Creating through the authentic self changes things drastically; it becomes more about aligning with the path of the highest good.

Today, I am living my success blueprint! Within me, I’ve cultivated a feeling of home that extends warmth and security to myself, my boys, embodying the life I wholeheartedly embrace. From the ground up, I’ve built a thriving, self-made business, serving as the sole provider for my life and family.

Over the past 11 years, I’ve journeyed from shadows to light, breaking free from the grips of drug use that had been a coping mechanism since my teenage years. I am free of drug use because I chose to unleash my autheniticity. This transformation was about aligning with my true self—choosing to see beyond the limits not only of my own self, but also of societal expectations.

With each step forward, I grow. With each challenge, I heal. Learning to live a life defined by my authentic self has been nothing short of transformational. It’s a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and unwavering resilience—a journey I embrace wholeheartedly as I continue to create the life I love.

Naomi Mailhot

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Naomi Mailhot - Author

Certified Life Coach from Rhodes Wellness College and a Spiritual Guide & Medium based in Sherwood Park, AB, Naomi offers a holistic approach encompassing wellness, business, personal, and spiritual coaching. She understands the power of small steps toward authenticity and overcoming fear; she is here to help guide you in rising to meet the SAGE within you.