Embracing Fear: A Journey to Authentic Living

Fear used to control my life in so many ways. I was afraid to be seen, afraid to be alone, afraid of success, and even afraid of healing. The fears that I had were mostly rooted in my fear of change and what that would mean for me. You see, change is the scary thing we all face; life changes, and we inevitably grow in ways we did not even know we needed to. I was drowning in my belief that what i was afraid of was there to destroy me and I was not able to see the growth it wanted to bring me. With these fears that I had, I needed to look at them with an open heart and mind, but also with the faith of my spirit.

What I was afraid of was only asking me to look at where I was not being authentic to myself. The fear of being seen was mostly due to the insecurities I had about being who I was and what other people would think. The fear of being alone was because I felt alone and continued to see myself as such, instead of looking at what I wanted to create in my life from a place of empowerment and inner guidance.

The fear of healing was not because I did not want to heal, but because I wondered what would happen to me, my relationships, and my life once I started to heal. I was overwhelmed by the journey I would need to take and letting my fears control me seemed easier.

Overcoming these fears became a transformative journey that involved embracing conscious awareness and intuitive mindfulness as a way of living. Here’s how I approached it:

Understanding the Nature of Fear:

I came to realize that fear was often rooted in my resistance to change and the unknown. I acknowledged that change is an inherent part of life, and rather than fearing it, I learned to adapt and grow from it. My fears were not there to destroy me; they were there to show me the changes I needed to make in order to create the balance, clarity, and healing I wanted to bring into my life. The nature of my fears stemmed from the disconnect I felt with my authentic self. I was afraid of the unknown because I didn’t truly know myself the way I wanted to.

Embracing the Present Moment:

Mindful living became my anchor. By staying present in each moment, I could reduce anxiety and focus on the here and now, rather than being consumed by past regrets or future worries. Staying present with the fear allowed me to hold space for it, enabling me to reflect and connect with it. Embracing the present moment and accepting that this is where I was, how I felt, and what was coming up was empowering. It felt like I was in control of the fear because I was saying,

“Hey, I see you, fear, and I am going to take a look at you on my terms.”

This self-empowerment was key to navigating through those fears. The present moment is all we have to work with, and showing up for the current flow of life enables you to make conscious choices. This is because you accept and allow what is to be what it is and then make a choice to adjust, empower, and grow.

Observing Thoughts and Emotions:

I began observing my thoughts and emotions without judgment. This practice allowed me to understand the triggers of my fears and gave me the space to process them more effectively. By giving myself the time and space needed to reflect and connect, I could process and honor what was coming up for me.

This process involved observing my thoughts and feelings as if they were in front of me, seen through a lens of awareness and acceptance. When fear arose, the mind had a tendency to take me on a roller coaster ride if I allowed it. However, the mind needed a co-pilot, an inner guidance to help it focus on authenticity, empowerment, and healing pathways. This co-pilot was the spirit within me, my inner guide.

Reflection Exercise:

Take a moment to sit in a quiet space. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and bring your awareness to the thoughts and emotions that have surfaced in moments of fear. Observe them without judgment, as if they are separate from you. What triggers these feelings? What can you learn from them about your fears and the changes needed in your life? Visualize your inner guide, your inner wisdom, providing guidance and support in navigating these emotions. Use this exercise as a tool for understanding and embracing your fears with a sense of empowerment and self-acceptance.

Regulating Energy:

When fear surged within me, I learned to harness that energy. Through deep breaths, grounding techniques, and an awareness of my body, I could redirect that energy toward actions that empowered me to confront my fears. Self-regulating became a wellness tool I highly recommend to everyone. It is a proven tool you can use to bring balance, grounding, and connection back into your inner power. To make self-regulating work, it requires full awareness in the mind, body, and spirit to effectively process what surfaces with the fears.

Asking questions to yourself such as:

  • “Is this fear the only thing I can allow into this space right now, or is there empowerment I can call into my awareness?”
  • “Does fear need to control me right now, or can I step back and take a breath to regroup?”
  • “What belief am I allowing that does not support me right now, and where can I begin to change this?”

These questions serve as powerful tools to help you navigate through fear with a sense of empowerment, giving you the ability to reclaim control over your responses and embrace your inner strength.

Trusting Intuition:

My intuition became a powerful guide. When fear arose, I turned to my inner wisdom for direction. Trusting my intuition led me to make choices aligned with my authentic self. I learned how to hone in on and enhance my intuition so that it could better serve as a guide on my journey.

Using my intuition to navigate through fears and allow a higher perspective or belief to emerge gave me a sense of new clarity and direction on the path. For example, when a fear arose, a common occurrence for all of us, I allowed my inner guide/intuition to take the lead. I trusted in the benevolence of the Universe and its support. I permitted myself to view things from a different perspective and to sense what my authenticity truly desired.

I listened to the inner voice that kept me grounded, calm, and in tune with my inner power. Additionally, I reminded myself of the times when I had trusted my intuition, and everything had unfolded for the highest good, reinforcing my faith in this powerful inner compass.

Taking Empowered Action:

Fear is inevitably a part of your journey, and when you allow it to be your teacher rather than the villain, you take back your power from it. Armed with your newfound conscious awareness and intuitive mindfulness, you can take empowered actions to address your fears.

Remember, healing and personal growth are not only necessary for yourself but also crucial for enhancing the quality of your relationships and creating the life you truly desire. This realization is a potent catalyst for your journey toward empowerment and authentic living. Embracing fear as a guide rather than an obstacle paves the way for remarkable personal transformation.

On my journey, fear has taught me that there is more to life than what is, asking us to embrace change and step into our authentic selves. It’s a process that’s not always easy, but with conscious awareness and intuitive mindfulness, it’s one that leads to fearlessness, authenticity, and a life filled with personal empowerment and fulfillment. Stand in your power and embark on your fearless journey today.

Fear, at its core, can be our most profound and enlightening teacher.


Naomi Mailhot - Author

Certified Life Coach from Rhodes Wellness College and a Spiritual Guide & Medium based in Sherwood Park, AB, Naomi offers a holistic approach encompassing wellness, business, personal, and spiritual coaching. She understands the power of small steps toward authenticity and overcoming fear; she is here to help guide you in rising to meet the SAGE within you.